I want to pursue my Raw Chef Certification. Pretty neat goal, huh? It has been something I’ve wanted to do for a very, very long time. That was one of the reason I started the Daily Raw Café. It is a safe haven to help develop my skills until I could one day learn from the big boys.
As a mother, there is always, and I mean always that realization that you can’t make a move in life without taking in consideration of the children.
A father may say he understands, but unless he’s a single father or a saint, his first thought is how a situation will work for him and then it trickles down to wife, children, dog, etc.
It was brought to my attention that maybe I should discard this pipe dream of raw food culinary school until the children are old enough to fend for themselves. A suggestion of the children staying with their father while I go to school out of state for 4 months was suggested and the answer was no, children need to be with their mother.
It was mentioned that if their father had a chance to go away for 4 months to pursue whatever he choose that would be okay because he’s a man. I’m sorry, but what century are we in?
I understand that I took on a huge responsibility with having children (so did dad by the way) but where is it written that a mother’s personal fulfillment is placed on hold until her youngest’s 18th birthday? Or that mothers are welcome to have personal growth as long as it doesn’t interfere with raising their offspring. I really want to see this documentation, preferable something that is notarized.
So in the midst of finding balance with doing what I want to do and being a good mother, it’s a wonder I found time to create Chad Sarno’s Carrot Pineapple Shortcake with Mesquite Flour and Sweet Cashew Cream Cheese (p. 310) (Okay, Avery helped), go grocery shopping, help my son make his school project, submit some job applications, do some laundry, yada, yada, ya... The cake was very good, my children (and their father) ate it up.
8 comments:
Mothers are amazing! Kudos to you for making it all work for you and your children. :)
Thank you, mothers are pretty amazing aren't they.
Terilynn
Hi! I think that any undertaking between two consenting adults should be a complete 50/50 agreement. I am sorry to read that you are unable to attend the certification you would like. The children are given opportunities to grow and flourish. Why not Mom too? Continuing to grow and flourish will help your kids see that always adding to our goals and completing our goals in life are important and possible. Beside 4 months is not forever. Good Luck! and Keep on RAWKIN!
Melinda,
You are absolutely right. It is very important for kids to make note of how moms handle their goals. Four months is totally not forever. And being a mom won't stop me. I will go to the culinary school I just have to works things out, it will happen. Count on it.
Thank you for your words of encouragement.
Terilynn
Good luck! There always has been a double standard, and it makes me sick. One of the reasons I'm not planning on having children! I hope you and your family can find a balance and find a way for you to be a happy, fulfilled person and still raise healthy well-rounded children. :0) Maybe one day we will actually achieve real equality, as wonderful mothers like you stick up for themselves!
So you want to attend 105 Degrees too, huh? Even if I have to bring my children with me, I will make it happen.
Here's what I did: I created a certificate declaring that I am a graduate of 105 Degrees Academy. I signed Mattew and Ladan's name to it. It's in our bedroom, and my husband knows I want to go. I don't worry about the "how." I just know it will happen.
If I have to do the 1-month training, and then the 3-month training another time, that is fine. As long as I get 'er done.
You are already there. Done deal.
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Althea
Althea,
You have given me the second best Valentine's gift (the first being a sugar cane from my husband). I sometimes(not often) forget the power that I possess within to make things possible. At times I get hooked on the "how" and not allow the process to take it's course. Thank you so much for the reminder.
Yours truly,
Terilynn
nice post. thanks.
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